When you keep getting unintended results,
there’s an unconscious pattern at work.
The answer isn't more insight.
Humans are highly adaptable creatures. When you're a smart, perceptive kid growing up in an unpredictable or unsafe environment, you figure out the best way to manage things to stay safe — yourself, others, situations. It works, so you keep doing it. Eventually, it becomes your default setting, and you aren’t even aware of it.
What this might look like:
- Avoiding difficult conversations or tasks, creating bigger problems down the road.
- Overworking or people-pleasing to manage anxiety, and feeling resentful or burned out.
- Micromanaging your partner/kids/parents/employees, and ending up with more discord than cooperation.
- Getting stuck in rumination, overthinking, guilt, or regret.
- Consistently doubting yourself, even when you know you’re capable.
Believe it or not, these are behaviors that once kept you safe. They aren’t working anymore, but your nervous system doesn’t know that; it’s still trying to avoid pain using outdated information.
When you see your patterns as protection instead of failure, you build compassion instead of resistance. Then things loosen.
We start with what's happening in the body, because the nervous system knows things the conscious mind doesn't have access to (yet). We follow the path from behavior to emotion to the subconscious beliefs that shaped these parts. Not to analyze them (you've probably done plenty of that) but to meet them. Get curious about them. Understand what they think they're protecting you from. This softens them. This is when you can change them.
I don't tell you what needs to change; I help you discover the parts of yourself that have been running the show, probably for decades, and help you relate to them differently.
Underneath the patterns, there is a part of you that is consistently steady, curious, clear. We just need to create the conditions for that part to come forward, then learn to live from it.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
—Carl Jung
The Feeling Function Program
The Feeling Function Program is an 8-week journey through your own interior. Each session moves between learning — how the nervous system works, what your patterns are protecting, why insight alone hasn't been enough — and applying that directly to what's actually happening in your life right now. By the end, you have the framework and tools to keep meeting and healing your parts, and showing up differently in your life.
Two ways to do the work:
Solo — Move through the program in one-on-one sessions, at your own pace. Each session is split between the content and applying it directly to what's happening in your life — your patterns, your parts, your specific inner landscape. Individual clients receives four IFS sessions following the program.
In a group — A small cohort of women moving through the program together. The witnessing and wisdom-sharing with women alongside you creates a felt sense of support and the feeling that you are going to be OK, and helps you understand and apply the work in new ways. Each group participant also receives two individual IFS sessions with me following the program.
Pricing
I want to build different systems, where access to this work is available not only to those with financial means. My pricing is built on an exchange pricing model, where context and impact are variables, not simply a market rate.
Cohort pricing ranges from $1,500 to $3,000 per person, depending on size. The more women in each, the lower the per-person cost. Final pricing is confirmed once the cohort is set. The price for an individual is $4,000.
These are baseline numbers. What you actually pay is a conversation — based on your resources, the complexity of your circumstances, and your readiness to do the work.
Who This Is For
This work is for people who find themselves in stuck in patterns they can’t seem to change. Who find themselves having the same argument (with other people and themselves) and nothing changes. Who doubt themselves despite their achievements. Who procrastinate on things that matter. Who criticize the people they love. Who know what they're doing while they're doing it and can't seem to stop.
It’s for people who have figured out that finding fault — in themselves, in others, in their circumstances — doesn't actually move anything.
Who've likely done some self-awareness work — therapy, books, workshops, couples counseling — but little changes, or it doesn't stick.
Who are ready to look at themselves honestly. All of it. And who don't want to do it alone.
Explore the Next Step
Schedule a free alignment call. We'll discuss where you are, my approach to this work, and whether we are a good fit to do it together.